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Sunday, February 13, 2011

Hi Friends...Actually i had decided not to write for the V-Day (something which has not got much importance for guys like us :P..Ada irumbu adikra edathla kosuvuku enna vela..:P) as i have plunged myself  too much into the subject through two short stories.Yet,here I am to write on that..(Who d hell can question us?. :P). The reason is one of my friend's blog post.Yup,that inspired me to ask what is Love? and this is just the outcome of what came to my mind after the little analysis....

What is Love?..The following lines by Vivek comes to my mind instantly whenever this question is put forth...
காதல்!!!
ஒரு கழட்டி போட்ட செருப்பு 
சைஸ் கரெக்ட்டா இருந்தா 
யார் வேணாலும் மாட்டிக்கலாம்.
Means,Love is like a footwear and if the size fits anybody can wear it..:P..


Well,that might sound funny or it might be little bit on the offensive side to compare love with footwear.It is said that there is a little truth behind every lie and there is a tinge of lie behind every truth.Going by that, behind this stupidity of terming love a footwear there is a nice thought.It implicitly says that If a heart finds another heart which is ideal for it and which complements and accepts the other just like the foot accepts the footwear of the right size then that is love.(Vivek really meant this..:P)..I don't know how funny or true or fair is the comparison,but in a way love is treated like footwear these days. I am not  intelligent,let alone be a  genius to define love.However to define what is not love(to say how love is treated like footwear)  a guy like me is more than enough.
  • Simply, Love is not what people do in beaches,parks, theaters and buses offering  free romantic shows to others.(Even it can be tolerated as long as they are not classified as adults only and pornographic.yappa Ivanga panra attuzhiyam iruke..Thangalada sami.).
  • Love is  definitely not what one feels when they see a hot guy/girl. If a feel is based on physical attraction then there are various terms to describe it ranging from attraction to infatuation to lust , but not love.
  • Its not the words that a guy or girl just say for the sake of  being with someone whom they are attracted to.
  • Most importantly its not that changes over time especially when a better guy or better girl turns up around the street corner.


It might sound somewhat cynical but by and large the truth is love has lost its meaning.These days there are lot of lovers but less love.If you say those old cinema dialogs like true love looks at only heart and it is divine and all people look at you and ask,"Are you nuts?".Few others say that its really good to hear these dialogs but it is impractical and hard to follow in real life.Its a pity to see that love has been categorized by younger generation as an archaic material which only deserved to be kept in museum and admired through the glass window than to be passionately pursued in real life.Its the guys who take advantage of the concept love and misuse it, would be the argument some years back.But now girls have also got a large part of reservation (for sure not 33%..more than that :P)..


Like every other aspect they prove intelligent equally to boys in this aspect of playing games in the name of love.(to the extent that couple of years ago a girl with the backing up of ex-lover pushed her husband from hill and killed him during honeymoon..EKSI.. Aarambinga da aangal padhugapu sangatha.. usuruke uthravadham illa..that too in honeymoon..:P).Not only this some are mighty successful in making guys loonies.(in old words. no girl becomes mad coz of love).Have heard this dialog lot of times when old people feel pity for the mad guys saying "Yar petha pillaiyo ipdi kiruku pudichu thiriyudhu..".What few people have not understood is the fact that there are some values that are in love more than the compatibility between two minds.(few cultural aspects that has to be followed too).In toto its not the guys or not only the girls but everyone is at guilty.(Evanum sari illa :( ) .


Love is demeaned the most when it results in meaner and cruder actions such as hurting parents & friends,when it is used as just time pass and more worse  when  it is used  by people to quench hormonal thirst.The last part is simply the implementation of  the western concept of one-night-stand in a modified version.The value part when forgotten leads to this kind of stupidities.By the time the emotions and desires run out,the intensity of the bonding  decreases and people start to move out of relationships.These kind of things will happen less when the values in love like selflessness and sacrifice is understood.In a way west is better where people know what they want in a relationship by defining their being together in a variety of ways including just dating to one night stands to living-together to Love&marriage. But here whatever crap they do, people do it in the name of  love.


If there are guys/girls who use love in immoral ways on the other side there are few people who waste their life mindlessly.Funny and pathetic characters are there to the extent where a guy  has proposed a girl 17 times and all the 17 times she rejected him giving a look as if she is seeing a stray dog.If you ask him,"Dai unaku konjam kooda vekkam manam soodu sorana illaya da" (meaning don't you feel ashamed) they say its common in love and one day she will understand him sounding  like old tamil movie hero  (thousand periyars vandhalum Hu-hmm.. mudiyathu da). Lot of times it is not only irritating to the girl but for the guys like us who witness this.(EKSI.. manatha vangradhukune irukanga.).. These guys don't understand that stalking and disturbing only increases the dislike on them.(Idea ve illadha pasanga).These guy makes me wonder,is there something more important than self-respect?.I guess there is nothing..


Sometimes few guys have genuine affection without any wrong intention but girls are always girls.They have bit of  low IQ(with only few exceptions) to understand good guys :P like they say the Goat believes the butcher. In short true love is not recognized or respected mostly.Not by these guys who stalk girls,girls who can't recognize true love and to some extent parents. If love had been taken in the right sense as it should have been then all these mean things will not happen and parents will not make faces when they know that their son/daughter is in love.Even people who approach love in the right sense are looked upon as culprits by parents due to these things.


If all this look cynical,pessimistic and hard-hitting then i guess its because of the predominant nonsense that is displayed which overshadows the real love and true lovers.This just summarizes the fact that many individuals are pissed off at these mindless things. If there is something that has to change it is the people who involve in these nonsense. The fact is there are people who has the exact opposite approach to love than what is discussed. (But sadly they are less in number.)Yes,how much ever i feel bad and write about today's love i guess i have the consideration for love as purely divine magic.And here goes my opinion on that (this is the little analysis on love that i referred initially)..


To be frank,trying to define true love is like trying to explain the taste of water.There is no taste,no color nor odour to water,as such there is no definition to Love.Its picture-perfect to compare love and water as life springs because of them.They are unique and the basis of life.One doesn't drink water for the taste of it and thus trying to focus on taste is pointless .It holds true in case of  definition of love too,trying to explain or to define is futile.


Like water, love is also present everywhere and it is free of cost which,i guess, should be the reason why it  has lost its worth.People don't appreciate something when it is free and easily available. Ironically it can be explained that a bottle of wine is much costly than a water bottle.Today the condition of love is also like that of water(in comparison with wine) where mere flashy attraction and lust indirectly get more recognition than true love.Whatever it is, true love can be never replaced by anything as water can never be replaced by any other thing,not even elixir for that matter...


To add more Love is the one which doesn't have starting and ending.(Like energy it is transformed but not destroyed).The one which flows out of heart without any reason.If your heart  loves a girl without the interference of brain's logic and if  you can not explicitly state the reason then that is genuine love.In a nutshell Love is not invented but discoveredSimply,What is left after taking out expectations,desire as a result of hormones, attraction and  reason  in a relationship is true love.


Finally everything boils down to one thing.The society has to change or evolve a bit.There is a dire need for social maturity to wipe out these immoral things..Technology wise or innovation wise we may be marching forward with pride but our ways to deal with culture and social justice dates back to Ice age.Its important to achieve advancements in that rather in rocket science and IT as people can survive without rocket science and IT but not when hatred,selfishness and malice replaces Love in people's mind.Its not important to decipher mysteries of universe but to decipher the darkness and ignorance in our minds.In short the Gen-X is trying understand what people easily understood 1000 years before and yet the so called Gen-x call themselves the neo-advanced generation..Funny paradox...Isn't it?


After a long time feeling like i gotten my old touch of writing..Good.. :D..Words and sentences and thoughts just flowed(words and thoughts which i never knew existed in me:P)..Actually ,I was gearing up for a special cricket world cup post.But as i said this came to my mind and i took this up and as i have said in my 50th post let this be the revision of my previous LOVE-A Poison of life(though i wanted it to revisit in a funny manner)..How ever the post for world cup special will not be abandoned..As usual it may be late but won't disappear..See you next time..Hope you enjoy this.. ;)

Thursday, February 03, 2011

Hey everyone...Feel like its been long that i blogged in my usual style..I guess its lost a bit as a result of the attempts made for exploring fictional writing...And now i desperately wanted to bring back that to cheer myself up and be funny...To be frank this should have been a movie review.. Yes,this post is inspired from a movie.I changed the review idea as i did not want to lash out on another movie.:P.So i converted that  into a post with my personal experiences.You know well that you will have fun if i  share my experiences.Lets dig this to see whats waiting....

Well,the movie that inspired me is "The social Network".It was quite ok kinda movie but few things in the movie interested me a lot.First, let me say a few words on the flick.When you have to choose between protecting a business(a monstrously growing firm) and being loyal to a friend choose the first one. Do everything to save business,even if it is at the cost of a best friend says the story.The curiosity to know how Mark Zuckerburg becomes the youngest CEO keeps one glued to the seat than the watch worthiness of the movie(my personal opinion)..



Lawsuits and settlements(which this movie largely deals with) are not the type of things guys like me would like to see in a movie,especially in a Hollywood movie.Nah, thats not our thing..Not my thing..What we want is some flashy stuff.Like superhero with cool gifts and powers, adrenalin pumping action adventures, comedies,critically acclaimed touching movies,sometimes romantic ones and even sometimes animation movies too.If not that,may be a movie which has a hunky man ramp walking around with a tough attitude or  some attractive babes or  Divas with bare minimum of outfits  is what identify Hollywood as far as little minds like mine knows.:P.


But this one has none of that elements except for few cool stuff that i liked.For instance the spirit of central character at some places which is most exemplified by this dialog , I'm CEO Bi***(as the title suggests). This CEO stuff and few things of Mark Zuckerburg made me to take up this post and write it in a personal perspective.Yes there is a flashback.Not only here, where ever this word CEO is uttered my first day at the present company comes to my mind.To give you the exact details i casually checked the calendar to figure out the date.You know what?.April 1st(WTF)..No one was needed to fool me.I did that myself.If  i have to sum up the embarrassing days in the past three years,this would compete tough for the top spot.


It was my induction to the specific Business unit.The Hall was filled with 72 trainees like me and 3 Managers.As usual i felt rather dozy and chose a corner seat to sleep,i mean, to sit :P.The managers asked about the induction and how it felt to get selected for the concern etc etc for which they received overwhelming responses.Guys did not fail to put bit after bit to the extent that some of them became too familiar.I kept silent as usual.The part of intro came.We were asked to say about ourselves and about our ambitions. Answers were quite normal  until my turn.People who know me can say that I don't back off from being grand when it comes to setting a target.(don't ask about reaching them :P)...


I said,"I wanna become the CEO of this company".It was received with a hint of giggles here and there.(It was not like i was mocked at or laughed).People thought that i am trying to show my funny side.But that was not i felt embarrassing.(ada oru CEO life la idhellam oru matter eh illa :P).The embarrassing part came when one of the managers visited our training center later.He started addressing me "CEO,Sir" and as usual a hint of giggle followed.(CEO Sir?.OMG..)..From then on i had to feel embarrassed when ever that was repeated.More than CEO,the term Sir embarrassed me a lot..(Nan avlo periya aal illingo):P..


Another important thing that struck me when i saw the movie was the fact that Mark Zuckerburg was a avid blogger before finding Facemash or The Facebook.LESSON/Warning 1:Don't underestimate bloggers :P...I got exhilarated when i learnt that he tortured many guys in his early days as i have been torturing you guys  for the past one and half years..:P It was too great to know that not only the minor pranks but he also dumped all his anger and frustrations on his blog as i do.Having said that I am not a hot shot mad blogger  like him to bash anyone or everyone including his girlfriend (as  Mark does..But i need not worry..I don't have a girl friend-Divas i bring this to your notice  :P :P-in the first place :P..)who gets under the skin.Not that no body gets under my skin but I am not used to this on the go blogging :P.The steam goes off as i take long time to blog..Many folks escape coz of that..LESSON/Warning 2:Don't mess with bloggers..Never ever:P

Here this similarity in CEO aspirations,Blogging stuff  and all doesn't mean that i want to follow his footsteps and i am taking motivation from his story..I can take something if i am his kinda guy.What he has achieved is cool but its not what i want to have in life.If you had asked me a year before i would have said money in dollars,rising fame, flashy Ferrari in the backyard and a Spanish beauty like Selena Gomez by my side would be cool enough  :P :P..But now I'm inclined to the idea of being more of  an artist than a superstar..More than me and a grand life the work(the creation) i do is important.(Of course if stardom comes with that artistic stature i won't deny :P.. Especially i will not deny Selena Gomez :P..)..


I saw a video during induction in which the CEO said," This is a perfect company which is perfect enough to accept the fact that it is imperfect." explaining the reason that the firm has good gains in the past quarter despite recession.I got dazzled by that rebellious,honest approach since i am one such. And during intro the words just manifested themselves,something inside me made me to say that and i said.I did not say to show off or to provide fun .After seeing the imperfections in corporates  which he highlighted i changed the idea..:P..I don't wanna become a CEO any more even if it is for Microsoft..I don't want to be a superstar..But who knows even this funny words of becoming a CEO may come true..(Enake konjam light ah overa theiryudhu.. :P)..After all this is a funny world... :P.. Anything can happen...


Coming back to the film..I liked few other parts as well..The scene in which he says If i want i will make phoenix club(the one which is open for elite group people and the one he badly wanted to join during his college days) into a ping pong room..Even though its on the offensive side(like the title) the spirit is visible behind the words which could not be denied.The way Sean parker says "In  old days people come and say ,Good idea kid.Now grown-ups will take it from here.But not this time.This is our time.This time you are gonna hand them a business card that says I AM CEO BI***." personifies the spirit that I am talking about(May be today if some major publishing house decides to publish one of my articles i would freak out with one such status update in  FB ...:P :P).When the same exact words are printed on his visiting card it is shown how seriously he has taken those words...


The ending perhaps was classic and absolutely fitting where he gives friend request to  his girl friend  whom he bashed on his blog LESSON 3:Bloggers are very good guys :P and which formed the reason for all the subsequent rise of Facemash and Facebook.The ending says it all,One can earn money,acquire power and get all the fame in the world but with out true love,affection and friendship life is not complete.He keeps on refreshing the home page to see whether she has accepted his request.The film ends there.
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